Wednesday 19 September 2007

HERE'S THE HOW TO:getting contact details off women

HERE'S THE HOW TO:
After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll often say
something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to
my friends."
They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys clinging to
them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you too..." Then,
just as I'm turning to walk away, and we kind of disconnect, I turn back
and say "HEY! Do you have email?"
The "HEY!" is a bit surprising, and "Do you have email" is nonthreatening.
In fact, I'm technically asking her if she HAS email, not if
she'll GIVE IT TO ME.
If she says "yes," I take out a pen and paper and say "Great, write it
down for me" and I have her write it down. (This is great, as I just
treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well.
And they've almost ALL gone along with it so far) Then AS SHE'S IN
THE MIDDLE OF WRITING, I say "Write your number down there
too."
When you ask for email, it's very low risk for a woman, so she'll think
"Fine, I'll do that." Most women will give out an email address without
thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just
not answer.
The magic of asking them to write their phone number down WHILE
they're in the middle of writing down their email is all about the
psychology of human behavior.
She's already mentally said "OK, I'll give you my email address"... and
she's in the middle of writing it down. When you say "And just write
your number down there too" it's only NATURAL to just write it.
In other words, it's a MUCH smaller step than giving out the phone
number all by itself. It took me a LONG time to figure out this simple
move, but it works like magic! You will have women writing their phone
numbers down without even thinking twice.

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